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We Protest Is Worse protest it is worse the spouse She is the one who can t get out of the hole We learn almost as an afterthought that her mother has had a double mastectomy Levy intellectualizes it all as if the bad things that happen are targeting herLevy s struggle leaves me feeling like I went through much of it too Chris Abani writes fiction the way this woman writes nonfiction I listened to the audio of this produced by Penguin Random House and read by the author Levy has an expressive voice and is able to put emphases in the work where she wants to push Essential Business Networking us a bit She is somethingite outside my experience This memoir got a lot of hype some of which is justifiedAriel Levy has some strong passages in the book but parts of it felt padded and He Taught Me to Hope (Darcy and the Young Knights Quest unfocused The Rules Do Not Apply is an extension of an article Levy wrote in The New Yorker on a horrible miscarriage she suffered while reporting in Mongolia The story of the miscarriage is heartbreaking along with her grief when she later lost her spouse LucyFor the first time I can remember I cannot locate my competent self one missing person In the last few months I have lost my son my spouse and my house Every morning I wakep and for a few seconds I m disoriented confused as to why I feel grief seeping into my body and then I remember what has become of my life I am thunderstruck by feeling at odd times and then I find myself gripping the kitchen counter a subway pole a friend s body so I won t fall over I don t mean that figuratively My sorrow is so intense it often feels like it will flatten meThe first part of this book is the strongest and I enjoyed reading how Levy became a writer and reporter However this memoir is also frustrating in that she makes several bad relationship decisions and it made me want to put the book down and give her a tough love lecture And Levy comes across as cold toward Lucy who was dealing with an alcohol addiction The last section of the book is especially nfocused everything after the details of her miscarriage were kind of a rambling mess And about that miscarriage scene *it was so gory that it was brutal to read I ve * was so gory that it was brutal to read I ve a terrible trend in the media world of pushing everything to extremes especially scenes of violence and trauma I see this in the movies we watch in TV shows and on the news and also in the shocking personal essays that are posted online and spare no bloody detail I ve wondered if this is all a result of internet algorithms with the most horrific stories getting the most clicks so publishing companies assume everyone wants to see horror But I don t I ll be fine if I never again read another awful miscarriage sceneI generally enjoy memoirs and in the end I m glad I read this and I will remember Levy s story for a while I would recommend The Rules Do Not Apply to readers who like emotional memoirs Just be braced for some painful scenesFavorite otesUntil recently I lived in a world where lost things could always be replaced But it has been made overwhelmingly clear to me now that anything you think is yours by right can vanish and what you can do about that is nothing at all The future I thought I was meticulously crafting for years has disappeared and with it have gone my ideas about the kind of life I d imagined I was due People have been telling me since I was a little girl that I was too fervent too forceful too much I thought I had harnessed the power of my own strength and greed and love in a life that could contain it But it has explodedDaring to think that the rules do not apply is the mark of a visionary It s also a symptom of narcissismThe fear of ending A House Built out of Stone up like my grandma cutting coupons in a one room efficiency surrounded by strangers made me vigilant like my parents anxious that the poverty of our ancestors was always just one wrong move awayI wanted what we all want everything We want a mate who feels like family and a lover who is exotic surprising We want to be youthful adventurers and middle aged mothers We want intimacy and autonomy safety and stimulation reassurance and novelty coziness and thrill. Story of how she built annconventional life and then watched it fall apart with astonishing speed Like much of her generation she was raised to resist traditional rules about work about love and about womanhood “I wanted what we all want everything We want a mate who feels like family and a lover who is exotic surprising We want to be youthful adventurers and middle aged mothers We want intim.
review The Rules Do Not ApplyNo Gentleman for Georgina (The Notorious Flynns, ueer different other I think I may have convinced myself that gay and trans love and sex was like straight love and sex only with different partners but listening to Levy makes me reassess I find I don t really want to know Please don t tell me It makes mencomfortable Do I need to know to be fair When Levy writes some kind of magic happens I heard an excerpt of her memoir very late one night on the radio She told Thin Blue Smoke us about the death of her infant while she visited Mongolia The story made me feel sick but it was as fascinating as it was grotesue I couldn t not listen I think of her traveling around the world picking people to marry The man she chose after she lost her baby she describes as having no family left at all his parents dead his wife divorced his children in college and his country South Africa in the throes of a government change He was living and working in Ulan Bator That kind of rootlessness is something very edgy and not comforting Only people that are forced would choose that space Who goes into something always looking for the back door Isn t that a way to fail trying Ariel Levy is a terrific writer but I can t say I really like reading her The exact way she describes how we discover alcoholism in someone close tos how it feels new constantly surprising and always denied made me feel foolish for having been taken in so many times just like that It is just all so hard to believe We just don t nderstand the way it presents It looks like something else We want to believe the lies what a mess it will make ntil one day the mess is already a fact and impossible to avoid It just makes Restoration us feel so stupid Human failure The ways we sabotage ourselves And all the time it is worse for the alcoholic Because it will never go awayThis woman is too much just like she says in the beginning of this memoir She thinks the world is there just for her and she willse it The Vanished (Roswell High, up She willse herself 120 Jobs That Wont Chain You to Your Desk up. A gorgeous darkly humorous memoir about a woman overcoming dramatic loss and finding reinvention for readers of Cheryl Strayed and Joan Didion When thirty eight year old New Yorker writer Ariel Levy left for a reporting trip to Mongolia in 2012 she was pregnant married financially secure and successful on her own terms A month later none of that was true Levy picks youp and hurls you through the. .
S But we can t have it allIn a strange way I am comforted by the truth Death comes for s You may get ten minutes on this earth or you may get eighty years but nobody gets out alive Accepting this rule gives me a funny flicker of peace The literary memoir The Rules Do Not Apply is all about a privileged white woman who has led a charmed life The author has been raised to assume she has control over all aspects of her life because nothing traumatic has ever I *m just going to talk openly about what happens in the memoir * just going to talk openly about what happens in the memoir it seems as though it s mostly all out there as is and so I don t want people yelling at me about spoilers The literal summary provided makes even the miscarriage clear Ariel Levy was thirty eight when she got pregnant before which she had been ambivalent about having a child Ariel wanted a child but she also wanted to pursue her ambitions in journalism and create a financially stable life for herself Her desire to live outside of traditional expectations led to a life of travel and enjoyment Yet one can not have everything all choices have trade offs and waiting so long to get pregnant meant Ariel eventually ended p having no children This was only one of the many choices that lead to the implosion of the life she had created with her spouse Lucy trade offs that eventually did not sustain the relationship like Ariel s denial about
Lucy s drinking Ariel explores what it means to have freedom and the constant grappling she deals with whens drinking Ariel explores what it means to have freedom and the constant grappling she deals with when chooses to do things based on her desires I only gave this book three stars because the writing was good and I The Four Faces of God understand what the author was trying to do It s just that the memoir felt badly put together In the beginning when she s in Africa and hints at ruining her life by talking to an old lover it is really distracting because after that she goes back in time and I had trouble for a while making out what she was talking about and what the time line of things were Also it just didn t feel like things fit together she writes about her childhood and meeting Lucy and her mentor but for some reason I wasn t sure what I was supposed tonderstand when I put all of that together I know that human beings aren t neat narrative packages but I can t stand the way memoirs always do this No one is interesting enough that I want to read about their life honestly The Last Whales unless there are larger points being made It s really sad that her child died and it was an awful thing that she had him in the bathroom I even empathize with how much it must have hurt to have to end her relationship with Lucy I know life is messy but it s not really something I want to read about And at the end she just lists daydreams about where her life might go next Ariel mentions that she loves to journal and maybe the appropriate place for all of this was in a journal It didn t really reveal anything new for me Like wow choices come with trade offs The most interesting stuff might have been her discussion of how hetronormative gender roles play out in her own relationship but it also just made me dislike her because she keeps talking about how it s Lucy s job to take care of her Maybe if Ariel just stopped thinking about herself for once then her relationship wouldn t have imploded You can t put pressure on your spouse to provide cheat on them while they try to build their company be in denial about their addiction and then turn around and leave them when you miscarry and they are in rehab Did she really think that would work out I don t dislike Ariel and I don t think shes a bad person We all make regrettable decisions It s just hard to feel sorry for her when she could ve stopped most of the problems from arising with Lucy I honestly did really feel awful about the whole pregnancy thing though That was one of the only things that I didn t feel like were on her She had waited too long to have a child yes but it s hard as a women to decide to have kids when it can limit ones autonomy so enormously Anyway Ariel is a really great writer but I didn t get anything out of this memoir but that might not be on her really Isually always end A Faithful Church Member up disliking memoirs I do try though. Acy and autonomy safety and stimulation reassurance and novelty coziness and thrills But we can’t have it all” In this profound and beautiful memoir Levy chronicles the adventure and heartbreak of being “a woman who is free to do whatever she chooses” Her own story of resilience becomes annforgettable portrait of the shifting forces in our culture of what has changed and of what is etern.