(Sex Purity and the Longings of a Girls Heart) [New] Ò Kristen Clark

Been weaponized to enforce the mentality that a girl s worth is gauged by her purity And purity has been aimed at a lifestyle of singleness An authentically biblical understanding of purity is that it is the state of relationship that we have with God when we seek to do God s will in our lives Purity is gauged by God not by standards established in a checklistI appreciate that the authors are dealing with a sensitive subject They do not rely on graphic illustrations They instead try to use illustrations that emphasize the struggles pain and brokenness that a faulty approach to sexuality have caused They take this message into communities and deal frankly with the subject This book is an extension of that ministryI will admit that I found some significant issues that I disagree with through the book The first has to do with the four cultural lies they enumerate They focus on identity marriage embracing open sexuality and femininity I agree with their cultural misunderstanding of femininity but I feel that they misrepresent it when they do not deal with the empowerment of females Femininity is not about exploiting the sexuality of a woman It is about seeing the inherent value strength ability and uniueness of each woman and allowing a woman to be all that she can be in thoseThe other lies that they focus on are minor issues of sexuality and purity I felt that what was being presented is a less dynamic reinforcing of evangelical platform issues Instead of sexual identity being Lie number one there is no discussion of the separation of sex from the sense of wholeness of self Sex is now considered a physical operation of the body Women and men have learned that they can divide sex from emotional and connected relationships The one night stand is not a new thing It has been cast in a new light thanks to hook ups friends with benefits and social media apps such as TinderWhen they deal with the subject of marriage they say that it is a covenant between a man and a woman The authors do not deal with what a successful sexual marriage looks like When I teach about sex I refer back to the three revealed purposes of sex procreation recreation and reconnection Within the boundaries of marriage all three purposes of sex are fulfilled When we remove sex from marriage the purposes are not as fulfilling And when the three purposes are not fulfilled in marriage there are issues that arise within the relationship Instead of focusing on the gender of the marriage partners perhaps sex and purity should focus on how it is to be fulfilled in a marriageFinally the authors emphasize how culture has emphasized if it feels right do it In light of the MeToo movement the breaking of silence on decades of sexual harassment and the use of sex as a tool for power imbalance it may have been useful to talk about how sex is a matter of if it doesn t feel right stop it My biggest concern about the book though is one that I have found in many evangelical self help approaches Consistently throughout the book there is a strong conviction that through Jesus Christ all things can be dealt with in right ways What isn t touched on in any convincing way is the necessity of community This is a very Jesus and me focused approach to understanding sexuality and purity Nowhere do the authors speak with any clear instruction of involvement with a strong

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of people help them in the walk with Christ Occasionally they point the reader to find a wise Christian woman to talk to Christ built a community of disciples to train and mentor He sent them out in mission with partners He reminded them of the need for two or to be gathered to now his presence There is no clear encouragement to be involved in any meaningful way in a youth or young adult or peer group as well as deep involvement in a community of believersThis really becomes an issue when dealing with the subject of temptation The authors provide steps to avoid temptation One of the most glaring things left off of this list is an accountability partner or group There is no mention of finding a connection with someone who nows them intimately including their struggles and allowing that person or group to check in to see how they are doing with their maturity in their struggles Accountability has long been a part of counseling males in this area of struggle It is just as important for femalesFinally I feel that there is a significant area of harm being done by not addressing the need to seek professional counseling in areas of addiction or sexual abuse The subject of abuse was briefly touched on a couple of places The final counsel is to again find a wise Christian woman to talk to about this There is hope that weakly offered There is not however a counsel to seek out someone who has helped others through the struggles Of Healing From Sexual Abuse Due To Issues That Are healing from sexual abuse Due to issues that are being identified as post traumatic stress disorder there is a clear need to seek out someone who can help navigate those wounds and paths to healingThe authors do not deal with addiction in any meaningful way Pornography has been shown to have the same biochemical markers in a body as narcotics or nicotine Prolonged exposure to pornography has been linked with relational maturity Sexual abuse has been connected to alcohol drug and other forms of physical harm addictions cutting eating disorders body dysmorphic disorder suicide attempts Addiction is a serious subject that needs to be addressed with young peopleI feel that the authors are trying to do good work I feel that this book represents a fair attempt at trying to deal with a sensitive subject with an overlooked demographic I feel that it doesn t go deep enough to provide the full extent of help that young women need to be healthy sexual beings in a Christian world. Lark and Bethany Beal share honestly about their own struggles and victories and invite women on a personal journey to discover and reclaim a biblical vision for their sexuality Kristen and Bethany help women understand why God's design for sexuality is good relevant and leads to true hope and lasting freedo. ,

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Rooted in God s Word packed with truth sharing the hope of forgiveness purpose and freedom in Christ and directing your focus back to Jesus throughout this book holds a message that so desperately needs to be heard nown and embraced if you re a christian girl in the 21st century this book is for YOUSuch a big complicated topic tackled with honesty without beating around the bush simple in writing style and yet full of deep contentIt feels like I m sitting and chatting with an older sister who has been through it and talking with practicality and with empathyNew stuff i learned it s okay if in your struggle with sexual sin you feel like you re too weak to fight as the fight is not ours it s God s He is the one who conuered sin and death and we can ONLY do the same through HimI learned that female sexuality isn t bad in its essence although objectification in mediaads society can unfortunately make you see it this way even if you re against objectification You seem to forget that sexuality has good uses too you can use all things to God s gloryMoreover real purpose of intimacy in marriage to reflect God s love a fundamental truth spoken even by biology of sexual interactionI learned that genuine intimacy is with the Creator is what ultimately satisfies our longing heartsI found little gems every now and then that could be applied to other areas of life as well although not acting on my feelings can feel wrong yet sometimes that s the correct thing to do concerning anger for exampleAlso Trusting in God s plans and purpose even when it doesn t seem to make any sense nowI loved that the authors inserted the two central stories of the Bible the fall and salvationredemption while having been re told focusing on sexual sin and it was a beautiful new perspectiv Back up the bias bus This book is dangerous and ineffective persuasive writing I would not recommend this book What makes reviewing this book difficult is separating the authors individual experiences and self confessed struggles from their wider message I have no problem with their stories I have no problem with what they believed in to overcome set backs I don t even have a problem with other people taking inspiration from their stor I have been looking forward to reading this book for uite some time now So when I finally got my hands on it I read it cover to cover in one single day Ladies this is a much needed book that you need to get your hands on It s raw it s honest and real Kristen and Bethany are very open and direct about the problems girls struggle with in terms of sexuality and purity They do not shy away from talking about masturbation pornography and lust With this book they counter the lie that girls don t struggle with these things and offer practical help and show what sexuality defined by God looks like The book was easy to read and understand with many examples and personal stories to illustrate their points All throughout the book what they say is based on Scripture and they refer to it There s also a study guide and an appendix on healing from sexual abuse at the end of the BookThis Book Did Not Focus book did not focus biblical womanhood or God s design for relationships because these topics have already been the focus in their first two books One might therefore want to read Girl Defined and Love Defined to see how it fits into the whole picture I can only recommend this book to any young Christian woman trying to figure out sexuality and fight temptation I think this is Kristen and Bethany s best book so far However please note that if you grew up very sheltered or have not been confronted with these issues so far you might want to read this with your mom or a mentor Disclaimer I received a free copy in exchange for a review via Netgalley Because of this book I m going to have premarital sex Another phenomenal read and awesome resource from sisters Kristen Clark and Bethany Beal I had the privilege of being on the launch team for Sex Purity and the Longings of a Girl s Heart and let me tell you it is not a book that you want to miss I was stunned and blessed This is a message I m so excited for It is simply beautifully another tool in helping us women discover the freedom of living out our sexuality God s wayI think one of the reasons I was so excited to read Sex "Purity and the Longings of a Girl s Heart is because we as the Church don t talk much about lust " and the Longings of a Girl s Heart is because we as the Church don t talk much about lust a girl s problem or about our sexuality in general And as a result I believe Satan has a foothold in many a woman s life Our idea of sex is twisted and we struggle with fear shame and secret sexual sinKristen and Bethany don t shy away from the raw tough uestions and shameful topics They dive right in They share their own stories of sexual sin and of finding forgiveness and freedom They share hope They get to the heart of the issue and give practical tips to avoid temptationReading this book could seriously be life changing for some girl I read a book that tackled the topic of sexual sin Every Young Woman s Battle by Shannon Ethridge when I was a young teen and it changed the course of my life And I believe Sex Purity and the Longings of a Girl s Heart is an even precious book on this topic because it is so centered on Christ and it is so personal honest hopeful and empatheticAnd holistic if that s the right word We re not just talking about how to avoid sexual sin We re talking about our design as human beings how God created us as sexual beings in the beginning And how that sexuality is good How our sexual design can point us to God Yes sexual intimacy was created exclusively for marriage but we are sexual beings whether we re married or not and so understanding God s design for our sexuality is vital It is an intricate part of our lives Sex Purity and the Longings of a Gi. For the modern Christian woman living in today's sexually charged society embracing God's design for sex and purity can often feel like an impossible pursuit As the culture seeks to normalize things such as pornography erotica and casual sex both single and married women of all ages feel immense pressure to. Rl s Heart talks about the universal sexual brokenness It talks about same sex attraction and the truth that male female and marriage were created specifically and purposefully by God It speaks on being made for intimacy imperfect purity battling temptation and real freedom Again and again we are reminded that our sexual longings point to an even deeper need the need for Jesus Christ He can truly satisfy our soulsSomething that I enjoyed about this book was how it uoted renowned Christian authors and speakers such as John Piper Dannah Gresh Dr Juli Slattery Jackie Hill Perry Joshua Harris and And of course the Holy Bible Scripture is what we must always line up our ideas against and see if they match Because God s Word is our absolute truthI love reading about God s design for marriage and sex It is truly beautiful And the way it points to Christ and the Church the Creator and our relationship with Him is magnificent When we realize the amazing design and purpose of sex we dare not tarnish its beauty It is too good to fool around withI hope you all will give this book a chance even if you don t normally read nonfiction It flows along well and is easy to read Kristen and Bethany help us to recognize God s awesome design for sex and intimacy as laid out in the holy Scriptures They show that the hold that sexual sin has on you can be broken You can find forgiveness new beginnings and glorious beauty as you turn to Him and use your sexuality as God designedOur brilliant loving Creator s plan for sexuality is obviously the very best It was His design in the first place We can trust that We don t have to live in sexual brokenness and depravity By His strength we can rise up to beautiful heights of purity holiness blissful joy and freedomThis is a beautiful book and I recommend to all women I think it will help them to understand their sexuality and the desires that come with that It will help them to honor marriage and sexual intimacy And find their deepest satisfaction and hope in ChristThis book includes discussion uestions at the back of the book for each chapter I can t wait to go through it with a group of women I received a complimentary copy of Sex Purity and the Longings of a Girl s Heart from Baker Books Publishers and the authors This review is honest and all my own I really enjoyed this book However it is a heavy topic Because of the candid and upfront way this book is written I would not recommend it for every Christian girl out there While the principles of this book would have been good for me to learn as a teenager I think this book would have made me very uncomfortable and could have dobe damage than good With that being said I still think it s an excellent book For girls going to public school andor struggling with sexual sins this book is a must read For girls growing up in sheltered Christian homes this book could easily rob them of their innocence if read too soon TerribleThis book is full of terrible toxic advice and NO teenager should ever read this It promotes unhealthy ideas and guilt and shame As a pastor who has worked with youth in middle school and high school for over 20 years dealing with worked with youth in middle school and high school for over 20 years dealing with subject of sex has been integral to a balanced approach of helping young people mature AND AS A HUMAN BEING I HAVEN T ALWAYS as a human being I haven t always the greatest at communicating on the subject I am always on the lookout for new material about youth and sexuality to expand my ability to guide young peopleBaker Books provided this review copy in exchange for a fair review The focus of the book is fairly apparent This book deals with sexuality and young females I appreciate the forwardness of the authors in dealing with this area of sexuality Many people find it difficult to be upfront about their sexuality but it seems that the cultural history of only naughty girls talk about sex has limited the frank conversations that young women needThe authors approach this subject from an evangelical worldview There are many scriptural tie ins The discussion of sin and restoration through Jesus Christ is prominent Many of the points are supported by a verse that directly relates to the subject For those who share the evangelical worldview this book will affirm dealing with young women from that point of view For those who do not share the evangelical worldview this book will not be as meaningful or helpfulI found some solid points of agreement with the authors They make the comment that lust is a human problem I think this is something that we don t deal with enough in talking with young people It isn t a male problem It isn t a Christian problem It isn t a teenage problem Lust is something that is dealt with usually poorly by almost every person Where the subject falls short is it does not deal with the reality that lust is a natural response Lust is the emotional expression of our sexual drive It is hormonal It ties directly into our imaginations and our emotions The authors emphasize lust as a problem Lust is a problem when we allow the corrupting influence of sin breaking a relationship with God and others to corrupt our imagination and emotionsI affirm their statement that intimacy is a deep need for all human beings Intimacy is not a sexual need Intimacy is a psychological mental emotional and communal need We are created for relationship with others We have different levels of relational needs Each person is different in the depth and breadth of those needs Some people need a few people who now them very well Others need a lot of people to now them well All people have the need to be nown and to now others deeplyI also respect their emphasis on purity This is an issue that has been abused in churches and religious communities and families Purity has been used to teach that sex is a bad thing Purity has. Conform With alluring temptations constantly inviting them to join in they might even begin to uestion whether God's design is truly good They wrestle with uestions like What is the purpose of my sexuality What does it mean to pursue purity Are my sexual longings good or badIn this encouraging book Kristen Sex Purity and the Longings of a Girls Heart